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To overcome any kind of mental/emotional suffering, you need to understand their root causes.

There are no such things as perceptions, judgements or preconceived notions encoded in any child’s mind at birth. Regardless of the circumstances in which the baby is born into, the child itself is inherently pure and joyful. That's how we all started off our lives!


From such state of innocence and pure joy, like pure white sheets of paper, we were gradually taught and commanded by our parents, teachers, people in the communities, and pressured to conform by society as a whole, to accept and follow the familial and societal definitions, perceptions, conditions, and beliefs of what is: right/wrong, good/bad, should/shouldn’t, lovable/unlovable, like/dislike, beautiful/ugly, acceptable/unacceptable, possible/impossible, etc. So, from very early on, our ‘white sheet of paper’ has started being painted with so many layers of different colours. And whilst growing up, we also keep adding onto and constantly adjusting our sets of values to adapt into and be accepted by new environments or people who we meet along the way.


We inevitably experience tensions and unsettling feelings in our daily interactions with other people around us, and/or our own restlessness or inner conflict within, as in every moment of our life, we constantly analyse and evaluate things, events, and people, including ourselves, based on our current set of values. As soon as we find something or someone that does not match our definitions and expectations of "how things and people should be”, we feel threatened as our ideal world model (the ideal world in which our Ego feels most safe and can be most right) is being threatened. We therefore become restless, stressed, anxious, disappointed, even upset and obsessed about those things that do not fit our ideals of how things and people should be.


Knowing the causes of your suffering, you see the right direction to start resolving it!

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